We’ve all been there. This time it’s over for good; there is no going back.  You are left to pick up the pieces.  Again.

If there was a conflict in your core values, it is likely a better scenario to keep on moving away anyway.  These often cause irreconcilable differences.  If not now, they will only resurface later, an usually worse.  So there were some relationship compatibility issues underneath all of the problems.

How To Cope?

You can look back over the time you were together and reminisce; yes there were good times. It is OK to think back over the good times.  And smile as you think of them. Your relationship was truly a gift; it played a major role in your life for as long as it lasted.

How have you grown?  You are surely different now then when you started.

Capture Your Lessons

Were there valuable lessons in all of this that you can use?  What would you do more of?  What would you do less of?  Take a moment to think about it.  Look back over the months and see what you can discern.  Were there any patterns?  When did things begin to head south and what were the prevailing circumstances at the time?  How did things unfold?  Look for your valuable lessons, after all, you’ve earned them.

Did you have the same arguments over and over?  That is a sure sign of a relationship that is STUCK. What is it about your communications skills that worked well?  And what, worked not so well?

Take some quiet time alone to process your thoughts.  And stay only in the company of nice  and positive people, especially now.  Gather your lessons from the past and let them build the foundation for your life as it is today.  Take the time to heal.  There is new hope.

The 5Es to Recovery process that I used in my own catastrophic break up and which is fully described in my book  “Bouncing Back From Loss: How to Learn From Your Past,  Heal  the Present , and Transform Your Future“ can help you to regain your footing, rebuild your confidence, and end your persistent pain.  It really works.

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Donna Marie Thompson, PhD – The Bouncing Back Now Relationship Coach – is a Certified Professional Coach, a Certified NLP Practitioner, and a Master Practitioner of the Energy Leadership Index. Donna Marie is listed as one of America’s Premier Experts in relationships and personal development. She is the host of the “Bouncing Back Now” show on BlogTalkRadio and on the Real Coaching Radio TV network. Donna Marie has been the featured guest on many radio shows and on the Brian Tracy TV Show as seen on ABC, CBS, NBC, and Fox affiliates across the country.

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