How to Bounce Back From a Break Up: On Your WayPosted by Donna Marie Thompson, PhD on May 26, 2011 in Bouncing Back, Living Your Values, Relationships | 2 comments
Often when we we are feeling down, especially after breaking up - we do not know where to turn or who we can trust. This is a difficult time for all of us when we are at the end of our rope. You often do not know where to turn.
It is a big problem so you might curl up on the couch and try to wait it out. Seeking out friends might work for a while - until they start to avoid you due to burnout. Although they can offer a shoulder to cry on and act as a sounding board, they can’t really help you to break free though.
What Doesn’t Work
Now if curling up on the couch or talking on and on with friends truly worked, then I’d be the first to say: “Go for it.” But alas, these approaches can only take you so far. But not far enough. And worse yet, they could be wasting your time. They let days of your life flow like water under the bridge – gone, lost, forever to be opportunities missed.
So think about it: Are you making the progress that you had hoped by now? Are you still crying?
Let me say that I am sorry for your loss. You can surely take the time to grieve. Then……
A New Beginning
As you begin to get your feet under you, take a look around at sources of genuine hope and help. If you are in a faith community, seek someone out for a chat. And there are countless books, blogs, web sites, and audios to help guide you. Find a source that aligns with the way you think – and the way that you want to feel. Find a source that resonates with you.
And ponder these questions:
- Are you ready to start to put your past relationship problems behind you?
- Are you ready to be true to YOUR core values?
- What do you want your life to be like?
- What values would you like to demonstrate?
- How would you like people to view you?
- What steps are you ready to take today to advance your recovery?
Yes, it might seem like a stretch – depending upon where you are in your recovery process. But, believe me, there is a new life waiting for you out there. And the good news is that you get to shape it. You will see that day-by-day your thoughts will begin to shift ever so slightly toward a new future – a different future, a brighter future, your new future. That, my friends is personel development at its best.
The Recovery Takes Hold
You will begin to notice the shifts in your thinking as you seek out feelings of peace – as you seek freedom from your pain, as you seek to escape the thoughts of hopelessness and sorrow.
You might be asking: “Will I ever be happy again?”
The answer is Yes – as you begin to take steps toward your healing and your recovery.
Looking to bounce back from a break up? Looking to accelerate your recovery and put your pain behind you once and for all? Checkout the e-book: “Bouncing Back From A Break Up : 7 Essential Steps to Creating a Newly Empowered You” available now at http://www.BouncingBackNow.com/store
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Donna Marie Thompson, PhD – The Bouncing Back Now Relationship Coach – is a best-selling author, a Certified Professional Coach, a Certified NLP Practitioner, and a Master Practitioner of the Energy Leadership Index. Donna Marie is listed as one of America’s Premier Experts in relationships and personal development. She is the host of the “Bouncing Back Now” show on the Real Coaching Radio TV network and the “Bounce Back”show on webtalkradio. Donna Marie is a featured relationship expert panelist on the new Conscious View TV series. She has been the special guest on many radio shows and on the Brian Tracy TV Show as seen on ABC, CBS, NBC, and Fox affiliates across the country. Donna Marie will be showcased on the national TV show “World’s Greatest” in July 2011.