Communication breakdown in your relationship?  What is going on here?  You used to be able to talk endlessly together about your shared hopes and  dreams.  Remember when you would talk on-and-on for hours.  And now you can’t even talk about something as simple as car maintenance without some sort of skirmish?  What is going on?

Perhaps a tune up is in order in the realm of relationship communication.  Here are a few quick tips.

1) If you’ve said it more than 3 times, your love heard it. Really, they did.  They might not have liked it, they might not agree with it, and they probably have not acted on it, but- trust me – they heard it.  So what is the use of saying it again….and again?

2) You are making assumptions that might not align with reality. This might come as a surprise to you – I know that it did to me – that what is going on in your head is only there – nowhere else.  The way you think is not the way that everyone else thinks.  And thank goodness sometimes, right?  You might be four steps ahead of your love AND on a completely different path altogether.  That is one reason for the communication breakdown in your relationship.

3) You might have unrealistic expectations. These could be about you ability to communicate clearly or about how aligned the two of you really are – your love compatibility.  Many assume that the other one is reading their mind.  At your peril!  It does not work reliably and the fact that you are having communication issues right now is a clear signal.  By the way, silence does not = agreement. You are two different people with different ideas.  Ask questions first, then form expectations.

Unresolved, these differences can lead to relationship problems and relationship issues.  And they stand in the way of having the healthy, happy,  loving relationship that you want and deserve.  These issues weaken your connection, your closeness.

Getting Started

What can you do to implement the three tips?  How can you go back to being open, curious, and genuinely interested so the channels of communication can open up again in your relationship?

And, now that you are on board, when is a good time for you to  get started?  Why not make it a personal development goal to work on this now?

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Donna Marie Thompson, PhD – The Bouncing Back Now Relationship Coach – is a best-selling author, a Certified Professional Coach, a Certified NLP Practitioner, and a Master Practitioner of the Energy Leadership Index. Donna Marie is listed as one of America’s Premier Experts in relationships and personal development. She is the host of the “Bouncing Back Now” show on the Real Coaching Radio TV network and the  “Bounce Back”show on webtalkradio.  Donna Marie is a featured relationship expert panelist on the new Conscious View TV series.  She has been the special guest on many radio shows and on the Brian Tracy TV Show as seen on ABC, CBS, NBC, and Fox affiliates across the country.  Donna Marie will be showcased on the national TV show “World’s Greatest”  in July 2011.