Where do those crazy thoughts  come from?  You know  the ones that go round and round in your head?  Or the ones that just pop into your mind out of nowhere?  What’s up with that?

Quote: “Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory.” Albert Schweitzer

The Thought

If you have a persistent thought that goes round and round in your head then you know just what I mean.   Does it pop into your mind with no apparent provocation? When you aren’t purposefully thinking about something else does it creep back into your consciousness?

Do you have recurring relationship problems or relationship issues that drive that thought?  Is your goal to have a happy, healthy relationship?

Who’s in Charge?

What power do you have to take charge of this? If you could change that thought, how would you change that thought?  Well, the good news is that you can.  You do have the power.  Yes, you do.  I didn’t believe it either – but now I KNOW!

If it is a less than a happy thought, then it is time to cast it out. You have the power to replace that thought with a new and improved thought, a thought about gratitude, a thought about joy, a thought about happiness, a thought about love and kindness.  Yes, you do.

You can begin to rebuild your relationship by changing your perspective and by changing  your thoughts.  It’s a start.  And it begins to shift everything.

It doesn’t work when you try very hard to stop thinking about something – your mind will take the cue and go retrieve that thought even if you don’t want it. It will happen over and over.  When you replace that negative thought with a positive thought that you have carefully crafted, one that supports your well-being and one that builds your confidence, then you are well on your way to increased happiness.

What to Do

Begin by thinking about that thought.  When does it occur?  Under what circumstances?  I want you to be ready the next time it pops into your head.  Specifically identify your troublesome repeating thought – let’s do only one a t time.

Then, you can identify any actions that you can take to rectify the situation that led to that thought.  What is causing this thought?  What can you do about it? Then go do it if you can.

Third, carefully craft a replacement thought – a positive thought that you can summon each and every time the troublesome thought presents itself.  Practice it for 7 days and it will become a solid habit.  Why not make it a personal development goal?  That is bouncing back.

Just Say No to the Status Quo^TM

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Donna Marie Thompson, PhD – The Bouncing Back Now Relationship Coach – is a best-selling author, a Certified Professional Coach, a Certified NLP Practitioner, and a Master Practitioner of the Energy Leadership Index. Donna Marie is listed as one of America’s Premier Experts in relationships and personal development. She is the host of the “Bouncing Back Now” show on the Real Coaching Radio TV network and the  “Bounce Back”show on webtalkradio.net.  Donna Marie is a featured relationship expert panelist on the new Living Consciously series on Denver cable TV.  She has been the special guest on many radio shows and on the Brian Tracy TV Show as seen on ABC, CBS, NBC, and Fox affiliates across the country.  Donna Marie will be showcased on the national TV show “World’s Greatest”  in July 2011 on the ION network.